Life & Love Trainings
Guiding You Home to Love, Connection & Meaning
Hello, I'm Sarah Tolmie.
For nearly two decades, I have been walking alongside individuals, couples, families, and communities as they navigate the great transitions of life.
My work has taken me into therapy rooms, wedding ceremonies, hospitals, grief circles, family homes, funeral chapels, and countless conversations about what it means to love well, live consciously, grieve deeply, and remain connected through life's ever-changing seasons.
At the heart of everything I teach is a simple belief:
Love isn't luck. It's something we learn, practise, nurture, and choose.
Whether we are talking about a marriage, a family, a friendship, our relationship with ourselves, or even the way we prepare for death, the same invitation exists: to show up with greater awareness, courage, compassion, and intention.
Life & Love Trainings brings together the most valuable lessons, tools, and practices from my work as a relationship therapist, grief educator, celebrant, communication specialist, and sacred deathcare practitioner into a growing library of courses, conversations, and resources designed to support real people living real lives.
These offerings are grounded in both science and soul, practical wisdom and human experience, helping you strengthen relationships, develop emotional resilience, navigate grief and loss, prepare for life's final chapter, and create a life filled with greater meaning, connection, and purpose.
Current Courses & Programs
Welcome
Wherever you find yourself right now, whether in a season of growth, challenge, celebration, uncertainty, grief, love, loss, or renewal, I am honoured to walk alongside you.
Thank you for being here. Welcome to Life & Love Trainings.
TOGETHER: A Modern Map for Sacred Relationship
Future-Proof Love: Science, Soul & Skills for Committed Couples
A comprehensive relationship education program that integrates contemporary relationship science, emotional intelligence, communication skills, conflict repair, intimacy practices, and sacred partnership principles to help couples build relationships that are resilient, connected, and deeply alive.
How Do You Feel?
Emotional Intelligence for Everyday Life
A practical and compassionate guide to understanding emotions, regulating the nervous system, developing emotional literacy, and building greater wellbeing, resilience, self-awareness, and emotional freedom.
Landscapes of Life, Love & Loss
Death is one of life's most important transitions, yet many of us arrive there unprepared.
This Free Video series resource supports individuals, couples, families, carers, and communities to engage in meaningful conversations about ageing, dying, death, grief, legacy, funeral wishes, home funerals, and conscious end-of-life planning.
Rather than waiting until crisis arrives, this work invites us to approach mortality with honesty, courage, preparation, and love.
Handbook and Worksheets are included.
Because preparing well for death is also a way of learning how to live more fully.
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More Than Information
My hope is that these programs become more than something you simply watch. I hope they become practices you live.
Because meaningful change rarely comes from information alone. It comes through awareness, reflection, conversation, courage, and consistent action over time.
The strongest relationships, the healthiest families, the most resilient individuals, and the most meaningful lives are not built by accident. They are built consciously. One conversation. One practice. One choice at a time.
Let's continue the journey together.
Sarah Tolmie
Life & Love Holistic Relationship Therapy
Relationships • Emotional Wellbeing • Grief • Ceremony • Sacred Deathcare • Conscious Living
TOGETHER
A Modern Map for Sacred Relationship
TOGETHER is a structured online relationship education program for committed couples who know they love each other and want to do it better.
Whether you've been together two years or twenty, whether things are quietly drifting or actively struggling, or whether your relationship is already good and you want to make it extraordinary — this is your map.
Over two integrated phases — Foundations and Toolkit — you'll build the mindset, emotional skills, and daily practices that research consistently shows predict long-term relationship health and happiness.
You'll learn how love actually works as a living system, how to regulate yourself in conflict rather than react from it, how to communicate in ways that connect rather than defend, and how to create the rituals and rhythms that keep a relationship alive through every season of life.
Each module includes teaching videos, beautifully designed workbooks, guided couple dialogues, and practical rituals you can begin using immediately. You move at your own pace, return as often as you need, and have lifetime access.
TOGETHER is for couples of all kinds — every orientation, every stage of life, every configuration of love — who have decided that their relationship deserves the same investment they bring to everything else that matters.
https://lifeandlove.teachable.com/p/together-a-modern-map-for-sacred-relationship
Landscapes of Life & Love & Loss
Traversing the sacred pathways of dying, death and grief
FREE Course for anyone and everyone - because these conversations belong to all of us.
In this gentle and insightful video series, Sarah Tolmie invites you into the tender terrain of dying, death, and grief. With compassion, clarity, and warmth, she opens the door to conversations that are often avoided—but deeply needed.
Across five heartfelt videos, Sarah explores:
- How we think and feel about death
- How to prepare practically and emotionally
- What to expect in the early shock of loss
- How to navigate the many landscapes of grief
- Ways to support ourselves and others through sorrow
- And how to gently return to life, meaning, and love after loss
With each step, Sarah offers not just guidance, but grace—drawing from her years of experience as a funeral celebrant, end-of-life consultant, and companion through grief.
The course also includes a downloadable free handbook, designed to help you begin meaningful conversations with your loved ones, gently and confidently.
How do you feel?
Using the intelligence of our emotions to heal and be whole.
Online Course for anyone ready to feel more deeply - and more freely
Emotions are not problems to be solved—they are messengers to be understood. In How Do You Feel?, Sarah Tolmie offers a soulful and practical guide to reconnecting with your emotional self, transforming the way you relate to your feelings and, in turn, to your life.
This course lays a compassionate foundation for understanding how emotions move through us—what they’re here to teach, and how we can respond with presence, rather than react in pain.
You’ll learn:
- The nature, purpose, and intelligence of emotions
- How to become fluent in the language of feeling
- Practical skills from Sarah’s Emotions Essentials Toolkit
- How to build emotional resilience and self-awareness
- Ways to gently shift from overwhelm to inner steadiness
Sarah also takes you on a deep dive into 12 Primary Emotions, exploring the unique role each plays in our inner world—and how to work with them skillfully and compassionately.
Whether you're navigating emotional overwhelm or simply want to deepen your relationship with yourself, this course offers a roadmap to feeling whole, grounded, and empowered through your emotional truth.
"Sarah was able to guide us in the right direction. Working with Sarah has been an emotional roller coaster that we had to ride as a couple to live our best life together and we couldn’t be happier. She has given us the ability to see our relationship as a living organism that requires attention and I am so grateful. Sarah offers such a warm and understanding atmosphere conducive to sharing and divulging our inner most fears and issues. I know the tools she have given us will be used daily and will only continue to improve our relationship.."
- Lisa and Cameron
All Courses, Coaching & Bundles
There are a few ways you can engage with Sarah on the Teachable to experience her courses
You can buy a course as a standalone product.
Or, you can buy a course bundled with a Zoom coaching call with Sarah.
Or you can get a further discount buying both two courses in a bundle.
And, you can reach out direct and have a Zoom coaching call with Sarah.
Sarah's Life & Love
Sarah Tolmie is a Holistic Relationship Therapist, Educator, Celebrant, Grief Educator, Sacred Deathcare Practitioner, and Funeral Director who has spent nearly two decades helping people navigate life's most meaningful transitions.
Her work spans the full arc of human experience, from supporting couples to build stronger relationships and families, to helping people navigate grief, loss, dying, death, and life's many seasons of change. Whether working with a couple preparing for marriage, supporting partners through challenge and reconnection, facilitating a grief retreat, leading a wedding ceremony, or guiding a family through a home funeral, Sarah's work is united by a simple belief: our relationships shape the quality of our lives.
Drawing from contemporary relationship science, emotional intelligence, attachment theory, grief education, ritual, ceremony, and trauma-informed practice, Sarah is known for blending practical wisdom with warmth, humanity, and a deeply relational approach. Her teaching integrates the best of evidence-based frameworks such as the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy, and the work of Esther Perel, while remaining grounded in the realities of everyday life.
Alongside her professional work, Sarah is a wife, mother, nature lover, traveller, writer, and lifelong student of what helps people live, love, and connect more consciously. Much of her perspective comes not only from formal training, but from the lived experience of marriage, parenting, community, grief, friendship, and the ongoing practice of being human.
Her work in sacred deathcare and funeral directing has profoundly shaped her understanding of what truly matters. Sitting with families at the end of life, supporting home funerals, vigils, farewells, and conversations about mortality has reinforced a lesson that sits at the heart of all her work: life is precious, relationships matter, and love deserves our attention while we still have the opportunity to express it.
The courses, conversations, and resources found here are an extension of that philosophy. They are designed to help people strengthen relationships, build emotional resilience, navigate change with greater confidence, and create lives rich in connection, meaning, and purpose.
At the centre of everything Sarah teaches is a simple truth:
Love isn't luck. It's something we learn, practise, nurture, repair, and choose.
